Here are the comparisons of life with one 20 month old to life with a 20 month old and 3 week old.
With just the 20 month old:
1) Day starts between 6:30 and 7 am when Tom wakes up and wants out of the crib.
2) I go get him up, change his diaper, put on his clothes and hang out while Emily showers.
3) Emily takes him downstairs, makes breakfast, maybe puts on Sesame Street while I shower.
4) I leave for work, Tom waves bye-bye in the window, I work until 5:30.
5) Emily and Tom do a morning activity, take a nap at 1, wake up and play until I get home.
6) I get home, play golf or baseball with Tom while Emily makes dinner.
7) We eat, play for a little bit, Tom takes a bath, puts pj's on, reads a book, asleep by 8 PM
8) Emily and I enjoy some tv and get to bed by 10 or 11.
Look how organized and neat the whole thing is. Honestly, we had gotten into that kind of routine with Thomas, for someone who is slightly OCD like me, it was almost heaven.
Now life with a 20 month old and 3 week old:
1) Wake up at 1 am for a feeding. Emily is breastfeeding, so I don't typically even know this goes on, but I have tried to help when needed. Wake up again at 4 am for another feeding, same as the 1 am feeding.
2) Tom wakes up at 7, so does Sarah, so I run in to get him while Emily nurses in our room. Tom wants to see mommy so we go into our room where he keeps climbing up and down the bed, all the while not letting me change his diaper or leave the room to shower because he also wants daddy in the room.
3) Around 7:30 I wrestle Tom's diaper and day clothes on him and try to get him downstairs so Emily can finish nursing Sarah in peace and quiet. Grandma either comes by or I drive Tom to her and head to work. Bye bye morning shower to wake me up.
4) I work in a kind of sleepy haze for the first few hours. I'm not sure if I am actually accomplishing anything, but I am there, so that counts for something.
5) Emily, Sarah, Thomas and Grandma do stuff at home. Tom naps at 1, I hope Emily and Sarah do to, I really have no idea if that happens.
6) I get home from work at 5:30 and hang out with Thomas, trying to keep him inside so I can relax on the couch with a beer, but all he wants to do is play golf or baseball outside. So we usually do that. By the way the mosquito are horrible this year, they attack us the entire time.
7) Thomas and I eat while Emily nurses Sarah and does her best to eat at the same time. After dinner Tom takes a shower with me, says "night-night" to our neighbors dog about 50 times, then goes to bed at 8.
8) Emily hands Sarah off to me at 8:30, pumps while I give her a bottle.
9) Sarah fusses from 9 until 11. I jiggy walk from 9 until 11. We all (please God, please!) go to sleep at 11:30 setting an alarm to wake up at 1 and start it all over again.
Not as organized but really it has not been bad at all. Yeah, we are tired, but Sarah has been great and Thomas has really adjusted pretty well to his sister. This is the last week we are doing the 1 am feeding. So that should help Emily out a bunch. We both think Sarah will make it to 4 anyway. She barley even wakes up for the 1 am feeding now.